- Denial
- Distance
- Dismissal
- Evasion
- Minimization
Distance (The intervening actor): You came in fifteen minutes late this morning. What happened was I went into the deli to get a cup of coffee and there was a long line. But you came in fifteen minutes late. I just explained it, you're not listening to what I'm saying.
Dismissal (Not just of the criticism, but of the person making it.): You came in fifteen minutes late. You're going to worry about fifteen minutes?
Evasion: You came in fifteen minutes late. Well, I don't look at the clock when I come in, so how would I know what time it is.
Minimization: You came in fifteen minutes late. I come in late once and you want to make a big deal about it.
All such avoidance comes from an inability to self-reflect, which is also to reconsider. Such people have no error box, they do not record or learn from their own mistakes. If you have ever had a co-worker whose work you have had to frequently correct turn to you and say, "I never make mistakes," you have encountered the phenomenon. These people never correct so they never fell the need to apologize, but then. again, they do not have to apologize because they never make mistakes. At least, in their own minds that is true.
The denial is the failure to record an error so the brain erases all trace of it. Distance is the brain trying to work around the error in an attempt to overwrite it as a non-error. Dismissal is a more obnoxious form of denial, actually attacking and belittling the interlocutor. Evasion is a somewhat politer form of the brain trying to work away from looking at the facts. Minimization is the brain back-tracking from the events, rather than looking at them.
Researchers have found that if people make eye contact there is almost no danger of people walking on a sidewalk colliding. They are not quite sure how it works, but by making eye contact people can actually signal their intentions and directions on even a crowded sidewalk. A similar effect occurs between poorly socialized schizophrenics, they recognize each other by minimal eye contact and will frequently support each other accordingly. This mutual support can be a disaster for anyone else, whom they may treat as garbage.
Their inability to correct, or take corrections, means that they would like to install themselves in positions where they give rather than receive orders. They want to be in places where they can make denial decisions on others. This gives rise to some nasty receptionists and self-important mail room employees who can make themselves ignore their own inability to correct into correcting, denying, others. They also become abusive police officers and out-of-control security guards. I am not saying that all people who hold these jobs act in this manner, what I am saying is that there are people who try to force themselves into these positions who are a disaster if they get them.
They also try to fill positions in management. They will statistically succeed in taking aver any management structure unless there is a strong external force maintaining socialization. They cannot self-reflect and they will respond violently to anything that might make them self-reflect, their brains are panicking and become defensive. This means that employment inteviews, particularly for senior positions, select for poor socialization, through unspoken signs they recognize each other and mutually avoid any reflection.
In a job interview, the person interviewing is usually a poorly socialized schizophrenic. Again, this puts the interviewer in a position to deny and the interviewer is selected for her ability to be as poorly socialized as her employers, guaranteeing them their happy world of self-satisfied incompetence.
The glass ceiling for women is that women are, on average, better socialized than men, they have better manners. Because they are not signalling that they are rude and obnoxious, they are signalling that they might make other management show introspection, which would make their brains explode. This is why most women are not promoted and why the ones who are have such charming personalities.
This is why idiot management puts such high emphasis on aggressive management. Aggressive managers do not get more work done, they just bother people more. But, in the backwards world of poor socialization this is mistaken for effectiveness, The employees suffer and the business is less efficient but the members on the outside board of directors are also , once more, trying to place themselves in positions of denial, are poorly socialized, are incompetent jackasses and do not realize it when it is their fault that a business is destroyed. A happy valley of self-satisfied self-destruction,.management and the board, incompetent together.
The upward selection mechanism in almost all organizations is poor socialization.
In a job interview, the goal is to make the interviewer feel special, that shows that you are one of them. You will have a much better chance of being hired.
The human brain works on models. Over time the brain has a rolling model of the world around itself which it upgrades and modifies over time. Most people pause if the model is violated. The brain stops reflects, and then either incorporates new information or decides that the original model was correct and that an anomaly has occurred. The poorly-socialized instead react violently.
So, if the model is one of chaos, chaos must be maintained; no organizational charts, no transcripts of meetings, constant retooling of management structures, constant reworking of timelines and individual work assignments. If the model is one of order; than thee must be an exact heading on each report, thee must be constant meetings to reinforce the organization, there must be a meeting before any work is started, every desk must be arranged as ordered. It seems to depend on the home environment with which the manager was raised; yelling, screaming parents produce a demand for chaos, strict over-controlling parents the anal need for order.
Another characterization of the behaviors is the shuns: inclusion, exclusion, intrusion, confusion, implosion, explosion, delusion, and self-promotion.
It comes down to forming protective groups that self reinforce and prevent outsiders from forcing change. The problem is that they have succeeded. Politicians are defined by denial, distance, dismissal, evasion, minimization. Corporate executives live in a nether world of incompetent fog And most judges are psychotic. Walk into almost any courtroom and you will witness a freak show. If oyu are ever in court, look at he judge, dodging eyes, outbursts, passivity, overt favoritism towards certain lawyers, the demand he be taken seriously, most, at least in the United States, are nuts. Do not mention it to anyone or you will be held in contempt by the psychotic judge.
In gaming theory, it is a blocked position. Corporations can abuse, judges will not intervene and politians are disinterested all because of their mutual poor-socialization. And forget the news media they are also the intrusive , interview obsessed incompetents who want ot bee part of the inside club of insanity. You are truly screwed.
If you have ever had a conversation like the following:
I'm trying to activate my account.
Then you have to send in the form.
I did send in the form.
Then you have to send in a different form.
Well, which form activates my account?
Well, if one doesn't then the other should.
But how do you know which one?
Well. if the first didn't then the second should.
then you have encountered the wall of psychosis, the person you were speaking to was a psychotic hired by another psychotic who wrote the psychotic rules There is nothing you can do.. .
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